Chitter-chatter

Chitter-Chatter: Why Do We Blog? Values 101

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As some of you know, I’ve created a ‘Chitter-Chatter‘ series where we can talk about book related topics.

If you have missed previous posts, we are still talking about:


In today’s Chitter-Chatter series, I would like to chat about why we find blogging enjoyable. I will explore the topic of personal values to help us understand.

A lot of coaching starts with exploring our values. Coaches believe that it is important to know them as they represent our core beliefs. They are our base and define who we are.

It is important to keep in mind that there are no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ values.  For example, if family is a strong value of mine and my friend’s value is career, I may think of some of her choices as strange as they may go against my own value. This is when we can potentially get into conflict with others as our values may be clashing.

Knowing our values is also helpful in terms of being able to understand why we feel certain way. Susan David in her book Emotional Agility talks about emotions, that we sometimes perceive as ‘negative’, as actually being valuable to us. Those emotions can give us useful insights about what’s important in our lives and what our values are.

For example, let’s say someone cuts me off in traffic and I get angry. Rather than beating myself up for reacting that way, I can just pause and tell myself: “of course, I’m angry, respect is a value of mine and I feel it’s just been breached by that ‘disrespectful’ behaviour”. Side note: it’s not a fact that the behaviour was disrespectful, it was my opinion, but it helped me understand why I felt the way I did. The next step would be then to examine why I saw that behaviour as disrespectful and if I would like to change my opinion or if I’m happy with keeping it as it is. There is nothing wrong with keeping it as it is by the way. We are all entitled to have opinions!

I believe we all deep down know our values, but we haven’t named them yet, so they may still be a bit unclear to us.

I find helpful asking myself questions such as ‘what do I love doing’, ‘when do I feel content’ or ‘what makes me angry’ and so on. And when I notice my emotions, I can dig deeper to find what values are possibly behind them.

How does that relate to blogging?

We have different reasons why we blog, mostly because our values are not identical.

For example, if my value is creativity, I will blog regardless if I have followers, likes, comments etc. Because the act of writing honours that value of creativity. However, if my value is recognition, my motives will be different and I will find promotion of my work important.

We normally have many values and how we perceive them can sometimes present an internal value conflict.

For example, if both creativity and recognition are my values, they may cause me an inner tension as creativity wants me to spend time creating and recognition wants me to spend time promoting my work. They may argue over my time. When I recognise I have these values, I can divide my time so they both get my attention and I feel aligned with them. I could say I’ll spend x amount of time this week writing and y amount of time promoting my work. Or I could also change the way I look at promoting my blog in general. If I know I love being creative, I can see marketing as a creative process and acknowledge that I am honouring both of these values at once. It’s important to notice and name our values as that may help us shift our perspective.

The reasons I enjoy blogging is that it honour these values of mine:

  • Creativity – it’s fundamental that I create. If I don’t write, I must take photos, garden, draw, read (it’s considered creative due to imagination we use whilst reading), sing, bake, cook, dance… I just need to make stuff. If I don’t, I get super grumpy.
  • Connection / Love / Generosity – I group these together as I see them as one. I want to connect. I love people and blogging has enabled me to meet some wonderful peeps. I guess I could be writing posts just for the sake of my creativity but without that connection, it would feel less satisfying.

For me, connection doesn’t necessary relate to my blog. I am happy to visit others’ blogs and connect that way. Via doing so, I am sort of removing an external condition that people must read my blog for me to connect with them. Please don’t feel you have to visit my blog if I ever comment at yours. I am honestly commenting because I love your post!

But equally, please don’t feel that I don’t appreciate if you do comment on my blog. It means a lot to me and I am thankful for all those sweet and kind people who have commented so far. I appreciate every one of you. 

  • Authenticity– it’s extremely important to me to stay true to myself and to my values. I am not everybody’s cup of tea and that’s absolutely fine. Dita Von Teese once famously said: “you can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches”. 😉 I want to write my opinions. And I am more than happy to have them challenged… but I won’t be writing reviews to please people nor will I read genre I have zero interest in to attract traffic.
  • Curiosity – I swear that one gets me more often into trouble that it actually serves me! My favourite word is why and I was one of those nightmare kids who would always ask questions and would never get satisfied with the ‘that’s the way it is’ answer. My poor parents had to constantly answer questions of: ‘why is the grass green’, ‘why is this man angry’, ‘why does this person need two seats’.. I wasn’t a mean child, I wanted to understand. And because I’m curious, I love analysing books. I want to get to know characters and understand their motives. When writing critical reviews, my curiosity is blissfully happy.
  • Growth – It sort of goes hand in hand with curiosity. I don’t feel I need to change but I still crave growing and evolving. If a book has a character that doesn’t grow, I lose interest. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to grow by the way, it’s just something that is personally important to me.

I also feel that I’m growing when I read positive reviews of books I personally didn’t enjoy reading that much.

Curiosity wants to know why these opinions are different, generosity enables me to keep an open mind and growth gets satisfied when I understand those different opinions. 🙂

These are not the only values of mine, but I find them fundamental when I’m blogging. When I’m honouring them, I am content and happy to carry on.  I am still figuring my values, please don’t feel bad if you don’t know yours yet. It is a process which doesn’t happen overnight.

If you know your values, your list may be very different to mine – and that’s ok! I appreciate how different we all are – it makes this world such an interesting place to live in.

Just before I wrap up, I want to tell you a story. A few years ago, I had an Instagram and Twitter accounts that related to rock climbing. I love taking photos and initially really enjoyed honouring this creative outlet of mine. My followers’ numbers grew, and I was getting more and more likes. And I’m not going to lie to you: it felt initially great. But then it somehow stopped feeling good and I started seeing it more as a chore. I thought long and hard about why my perspective shifted. I think my problem was that I wasn’t taking photos for me but rather for my audience. That started going against my value of authenticity. I also started neglecting connections as I was not fully present with others whilst thinking about what photo to take during my time with them. And it didn’t feel good. Once I started understanding my values, I also started understanding why I felt the way I did.

I’m sharing my experience not to preach my values. I’m sharing it as an example to demonstrate how knowing our values can help us understand ourselves better.

I believe that we feel good not because what our values are, but rather because we are aware of them and are aligned with them.


It’s time to chat.

  • Do you understand your values? (I’m still working mine out so don’t feel bad if you don’t, you are not alone!)
  • If you do, what values of yours relate to your blogging?

Please let me know in the comments below, I am dying to know… (that curiosity again…!)

PS. I am not judging anybody who has different values, please keep that in mind if you feel a bit scared or intimidated! 

16 thoughts on “Chitter-Chatter: Why Do We Blog? Values 101”

  1. What an interesting way to look at blogging! I’d say I blog for many of the same reasons as you, especially the connection aspect. Originally I started blogging simply as a way to keep a record of my thoughts on books (so perhaps I value memory keeping?) but when I realized how much of a book blogging community there is out there my priorities quickly changed. Love this post! 🙂

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    1. That’s brilliant Holly! What’s interesting is that our reasons can change as our values are dynamic and evolve with us.
      I love the memory keeping aspect, I can absolutely see why that could matter to us!
      And I’m so glad you enjoyed the post, thank you for stopping by. 😊

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  2. Ah, interesting. I never really thought about my values in terms of blogging.
    In personal life i know that career is not really something i want. I mean, i do need a job cuz i’m quite fond of living in a flat and not on the street, but that’s about it 😀

    I started my book blog mainly to connect to other people with similar interest to mine (or maybe different interest so i can find different books, hehe), and because i like writing random things.
    Also there was a technical curiosity in terms of how blogs work (CSS, html and whatnot).

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    1. I love your reasons Norrie. I am currently diving into values and find working out what values are behind our choices fascinating. Thanks for sharing them with me.

      I thought I wanted career but then I realised I actually didn’t. It was something I was hoping to have in order to feel ‘better’… so it was a false value of mine. There’s nothing wrong with wanting career, it just wasn’t important to me as much as I thought it would be. What’s interesting is that values can sometimes not be our ‘true’ values but rather something we want as we think it may make us happy.. 😊 I stop talking now, I find all of this extremely interesting and can go on and on for hours. 😊

      Have a great weekend. 😊

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      1. I talked about this a lot with my therapist as well and it is quite interesting indeed! Like family (mine) was not important to me, but i do want a future family that is important.

        Have a good weekend too! 😀☀

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      2. Oh I talked about values both with my therapist as well as a life coach. They can give us extremely powerful insights. ❤
        PS. Hope you get a lot of sun this weekend! Forecast is looking promising. 🌞🌞🌞

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  3. Hm, I never thought of it in terms of values in the beginning. I think I started due to the personal challenge of putting something out there which is hard for me and a connection to other people but I definitely share some of those values and find them really more important as it goes on (like authenticity.)

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    1. Challenge is a great reason, love it! It could also be growth as you are overcoming that feeling of discomfort whilst showing courage. So courage can be another value. Or they can be both. I try grouping mine to represent a theme and that helps me find patterns (I’m a mathematician, I’m a geek 🤓)
      I never used to think about values much – it’s not something people talk about a lot. But as I’m starting to discover some of them, I love how it all then start making sense. 😊

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  4. Really interesting discussion to have!! I do firmly agree that everyone is entitled to have their own opinions. And I like how you drew a comparison between creativity and recognition. I absolutely relate to your two reasons to blog btw- I absolutely have to create or I get miserable and I also love connecting with all sorts of people!! And I fundamentally agree that staying true to yourself and being honest are the most important principles (I still see that as the reason I started blogging in the first place and I tend to use that as my biggest guide). And I also really relate to your story about having a different platform- I actually tried out other platforms years before I ever got a blog- one of which was a writing site- and for a bit I felt like I was getting validation, but I also feel like it ended up getting that feeling that I needed validation out of my system, because eventually the feeling waned and I no longer enjoyed it. When I finally decided I wanted to make a new platform I didn’t want it to be the same. I really do believe that’s something everyone can grow out of, but it’s also a lesson most people have to learn on their own. Anyway, I really related to this post!!

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    1. “And I fundamentally agree that staying true to yourself and being honest are the most important principles.” Yes! And, when I create for what I think could be ‘liked’, I start despising myself for that. And you are absolutely right – it is a valuable lesson to go through.
      Have you read Big Magic by Liz Gilbert? She talks about all sorts of creative things and I love her take on creativity. Before she wrote Eat Pray Love she was going through stage of thinking her writing may not be good enough. And then she told her creativity: “when we started this contract I didn’t promise you I would write well, I just promised I would write. And I am going to keep that promise”… and the rest is history as that book just became a massive hit… 😊❤️
      Thanks for stopping by. 🙏❤️

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      1. Yes!! I so agree with you there!! I definitely had to learn the same lesson, so I’m glad that when I fell into blogging it was for different reasons 😊
        Oh no, I want to read it! I love the sound of it!! And wow I love that quote!!! 😊😊That’s amazing!! 😊 ❤
        You're welcome! 😊 ❤

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  5. Ah yes, I completely relate. I had a first blog a few years ago, but I started not enjoying myself anymore, and it was due to a pressure to keep up stats. I initially started out for the love of creativity itself, but I think I didn’t realize at the time that I wanted recognition as well, and this grew out of control from the moment people started acknowledging me.

    THUS why I started my current blog. 🙂 I don’t feel obligated anymore, and I’m even thinking about rebooting my old blog sometime. 🙂 Great post as always Vera!

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    1. It is tricky when there is a conflict – I can so relate to that. But it is a great lesson and we can definitely grow because of that. ❤️

      I love your blog! Your posts are always so well articulated and passionate – and I’m so glad you started it. It may have been for you initially but others resonate with it because of that. 😊❤️

      And as always, thanks for your kind words. 😊

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