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Chitter-Chatter: Blogging Goals – Less in the World of More

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Welcome to the ‘Chitter-Chatter‘ series. I’m so glad you are here

In case you have missed previous posts in this series, we are still talking about:


In today’s Chitter-Chatter series, I would like to chat about setting goals. Before I do that, let’s start with the more vs. less concept.

Do you sometimes feel you need to or should do more?

When applied to the blogging community: do you feel you should read more books, write more posts, engage with more bloggers, have more social media platforms…?

If you have been following my blog for a while, you may know that I call myself a minimalist.

Minimalists like to talk about less being more. I know, it is an oxymoron. But when we think about what is behind ‘less‘ – it may start making sense.

As an example: if I want ‘less’ things, I may be able to work ‘less’ hours as I need to earn ‘less’ money and therefore have ‘more’ non-working time to spend.

Even though I fully believe in less being more, I still notice that need for more sometimes lurking in dark corners of my mind and when I don’t keep an eye of it, it starts making its way to the surface.

Recently, I have noticed a shift in my mentality about blogging. I started to feel I needed to do more.

I felt I needed to read more. And write more, visit more blogs, and generally make more of an effort. Do you notice how exhausting it sounds?

And do you know what’s interesting about it? That nobody told me so. It all came from me – those were my own expectations I ruthlessly put upon myself.

We may set goals for different reasons:

  • We may set them because frankly, we want to. We are in a state of ‘happy dissatisfaction’ with a mindset full of abundance, kindness and love and want to evolve.
  • Or we can also set them because we may feel we ‘lack something’. This mindset is about scarcity.

The first category makes us feel content with failing, the second category hates failing. The first category promotes self-love and self-compassion, the second one fear and shame. The first category wants us to do something, not because how we are hoping to feel afterwards, but because it is something we are interested in doing. The second category is all about how we will feel afterwards… and the answer is: we are hoping we will feel better than how we are feeling right now.

Brooke Castillo did an entire podcast on ‘goal setting’ in which she talks about how we could set goals we have already achieved alongside those that we are still hoping to achieve. It’s absolutely fantastic and you can listen to it here.

The first time I heard it, I thought: ‘Whaaat? Why would I set goals I have already completed? Isn’t that a bit counter-intuitive’?

Thinking about it for some time led me believe that setting those goals we have achieved, alongside those, we are yet to achieve, not only shifts our mentality into that first category, but also enables us to want less as our goal list is already partially complete.

Okay, it may be a bit abstract, let’s pick an example:

Let’s say I want to write three posts a week and make this my current blog goal.

I can also want to ‘have a blog’ (which I have) and find a group of people on blogosphere I enjoy interacting with (which I have found and am extremely grateful for).

Looking at it this way, I have already achieved two of my three goals. And it feels good. Side note: those two goals are something I very much wanted at some point. And I have achieved them. I included them because they once were something I truly desired.

Wishing for something using an example above makes me feel like I am not lacking anything, but rather have an abundance of opportunities in my life.

If I don’t achieve my three posts a week goal,  I won’t make it mean all about me because I have already achieved those other two goals… do you see what is happening here? I have three goals and my goal list doesn’t feel short, I have also achieved two of those so I am not feeling stressed about the incomplete goal.

You may argue that this way, you will achieve less. I politely disagree. I think wanting something, which we already have, ensures we are likely not to give up when things become challenging.

I also think it may reduce our overall anxiety and feelings of: ‘there’s so much to do, I don’t know what to do first, I’m so busy, I am so overwhelmed’…. As these can result into us not taking any actions at all. I usually start procrastinating whenever I am thinking those thoughts.

I believe that wanting something we already have can also help us start cultivating gratitude. And gratitude could invite inner peace.


Do you feel like there is just so much to do and you don’t know what to do first?

How about you chose the most important goal you currently have and add a few goals to your goal list, that you once really wanted to accomplish, and which you have achieved?

You don’t need to pick one incomplete goal nor use the 1:2 ratio. It’s completely up to you. We are all different.

Trying this experiment may be fun and if you do decide to give it a go, please let me know. I would love to cheer you along! 🙂

My parting comments are following: we can all feel sometimes that we need more. But I wholeheartedly believe that the answer is always less.


Let’s talk!

  • What do you think of the ‘wish for something you already have’ concept?
  • And do you also sometimes feel like you need to do ‘more’?
  • And what do you think about minimalism? 🙂

As always, I would love to know what you think. I do appreciate all your comments.

16 thoughts on “Chitter-Chatter: Blogging Goals – Less in the World of More”

  1. I’ve had the “I need to do more” thoughts before. But I haven’t done anything about it lol. I love blogging and I don’t want to do too much (like expanding to another platform) because I think it would make this whole experience less fun. My goals are simple I think. Read other people’s posts and comment if and when I can. That’s about it haha.

    I liked this post. You really got me thinking! 🙂

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    1. I like your approach. 👌Enjoying this experience is something I keep on telling myself is this all about.
      I am a ‘recovering perfectionist’ and if I don’t keep an eye on my thoughts, I start spiralling them into wild stories. I think keeping everything simple and being aware of what I’m thinking and not beating myself up for it (I have that tendency) is what helps me.
      Thanks for stopping by. 😊❤️

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  2. Love this post! I completely relate to having the “I need to do more” mentality, especially when it comes to things like work and blogging. However, I try to give myself as much room as possible to be flexible when things come up and take a break when I’m feeling burnt out. When something I genuinely love doing starts feeling like a requirement or like homework, that when I know I need to change something! 🙂

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    1. Oh, I love that last sentence of yours! 👌 Psychologists call ‘a state of flow’ an activity when time stops existing, we are fully present in what we are doing and completely stop noticing time. Whenever I get in that space I know I’m on the right path. When it becomes a chore and time drags… then it’s time to re-examine my thoughts about that activity. 😊 Side note: ‘flow’ requires competency though so it may be difficult to achieve for beginners but it will happen with enough practice. 😊
      Thank you for stopping by and have a great weekend. 😊☀️

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  3. I think the ‘more’ thing is just there in the background of our community – you can’t help but pick it up and start feeling that way. I’ve been thinking about that a lot lately, and I feel like it’s really tiring me out. So maybe I need to take up your ‘less’ point of view for my blogging.

    That’s a very interesting point of view about the goals and setting ones that are already achieved. And a good example. That’s the thing about me (and I guess many other people) – when I reach a goal, I immediately forget about it, and it sort of ‘stops counting’. I should probably give it more weight, cause what’s the point of achieving anything at all, if you’re not going to enjoy the victory?

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    1. I know exactly what you mean. As society is become ‘productivity’ focused, it’s becoming harder and harder not to fall into that circle of more. I still fall into it many times and you are right, it’s really tiring. I love your blog and am sure there is a lot time and work that goes into it. ❤️

      I’m the same. As soon as something it ticked from my list, I want to move to the next thing. Actively wishing for something I once truly wanted and now do have has helped me a lot. I agree, enjoying those victories and still wanting what we have already achieved makes them so much more worthwhile.

      Thanks for stopping by. 😊

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  4. I think this is such an interesting idea! So if I’m reading this right, it’s kind of the “getting started is half the battle” mentality, right? You don’t eliminate or disregard the things you’ve already ticked off your list so you’ll feel like you’ve accomplished a lot despite having things left to do. Or in other words, you feel encouraged by your progress rather than discouraged by the lack? Correct me if I’m wrong haha. 😛

    But yeah, this is the mantra I’m struggling to adopt right now! I have a lot to digest in my life right now besides books, so this idea has been helping me cope with the stress, and I love how you framed this discussion. 😉 Amazing post! Your stuff always helps put my life into perspective! ❤ ❤

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    1. Thanks so much! And I sincerely hope your hectic period will pass soon. ❤️❤️ I sometimes feel there’s so much going on as well.. 😔Yoga is my secret weapon…🧘‍♀️❤️

      “you feel encouraged by your progress rather than discouraged by the lack” – yes. You feel you have abundance of achievements and regardless what happens to those to-do tasks, you feel you are on the right path. I think if to-do list becomes long and we tick things off and move to the next items straight away… we may feel stressed and overwhelmed- and that doesn’t feel good and in my opinion doesn’t serve us.

      Wishing for goals we have achieved helps us with getting started those we are still to achieved. Thinking about it, you are absolutely right, it may actually help us get things started as well, it’s a great point! 👍👏

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