Welcome to another post in the Nonfiction November series. For those of you new to this, Nonfiction November is hosted by Katie at Doing Dewey, Rennie at What’s Nonfiction?, Julie at Julz Reads, Kim at Sophisticated Dorkiness, and Sarah at Sarah’s Book Shelves.
Today’s topic is Be The Expert/Ask the Expert/Become the Expert and is hosted by Kim at Sophisticated Dorkiness
There are three ways to join in this week – we can either share 3 or more books on a single topic that we have read and can recommend (be the expert), we can put the call out for good nonfiction on a specific topic that we have been dying to read (ask the expert), or we can create your own list of books on a topic that we’d like to read (become the expert).
I’ve decided to roll up my sleeves and look at the topic, that is, as a life coach, very close to my heart. I feel I have read a lot of books on this topics but I’d like to read more books as well. So I’m mixing Be the Expert with the Ask the Expert categories.
Today, I would like to talk about Growth and why I firmly believe in the “it’s not about the goal but rather about the journey” concept.
I feel we live in times, when we talk a lot about achievements. Don’t take me wrong – I don’t want to dismiss them or downplay them. Achievements start bothering me when the outcome becomes the only thing ‘that matters’. When all that discomfort, courage and grind that lies behind them gets overlooked. When the primary focus is on the result, rather than its process.
I firmly believe that behind any self-development is a strong desire to grow.
But when we talk about growth, I guess the important part is how we approach it. In other words:
- do we want to grow become we believe we are not good enough and are hoping that if we grow, we may become someone else and will feel better
- or do we want to grow because we want to be uncomfortable and enjoy the process, rather than its outcome.
Those two different categories indicate from which place we approach growth, the first one is coming from a fear mindset – i.e. I need to change, I’m afraid they don’t like who I am, I am not good enough, have not enough, do enough…
The second category comes from an abundance mindset. We believe we have enough and are enough but also feel that we can still go after our dreams, face our fears, be uncertain / vulnerable, let people in – in other words, we are happy to be uncomfortable and face all emotions that come with it.
Deciding how to approach growth is critical. I always tell myself: “I will grow because I want to, not because I feel I need to.” This simple sentence can shift my own mentality profoundly.
My favourite question to ask myself is: “who am I becoming in this process“? Let’s think about it. It’s a very direct question that prompts us to look for growth and how it shapes us.
I also agree with Tony Robbins, who once said: “All growth starts at the end of your comfort zone.” Without discomfort, there is no growth. And without growth, there is no story to tell. At least that’s what I believe in.😊
Which books would I recommend on this subject? I’m glad you asked!
“…sometimes when we are beating ourselves up, we need to stop and say to that harassing voice inside, “Man, I’m doing the very best I can right now.” ” ~ Brené Brown
Tim Ferriss: Tools of Titans
“The world is changed by your example, not by your opinion.” ~ Tim Ferriss
“Fear is the raw material from which courage is manufactured.” ~ Martha N. Beck
“A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.” ~Byron Katie
Elizabeth Gilbert: Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear
“You can measure your worth by your dedication to your path, not by your successes or failures.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert
“Emotions are data, they are not directives” ~ Susan David
Rob Bell: How to Be Here
“It’s important to embrace several truths about yourself and those around you, beginning with this one: who you AREN’T isn’t interesting.” ~ Rob Bell
That’s just a few of my favourite books. There are many more but also, there are even more I am yet to read! So many books, so little time! 😊
Now over to you.
Fancy sharing some of your favourite books about growth and self-development with me?
As always, I would love to know!